Perception

Every life has a purpose. All we have to do is find purpose of our life and then accomplish it. Then there must be people whose purpose is to show the worst scenario of living the life without purpose.

what we see depend only on our attitude & perception.

First deserve then desire

How much is the ordering between getting reward and qualifying test for it affects its impact ? ?


The most common saying is "First deserve then desire". This is best for the people who have clear goals in life. So, they define their goals, work hard yo achieve it and finally get it. It gives real feeling of accomplishment, feeling of really owning your life i.e. you are what you wanted to be.


Then there is other category of people also who are not so sure of their goals. They are bit confused, so they try to get what seems best at the present moment (do not try that hard to get it and do not know about its contribution to their final goal). Sometimes they also get the reward with their little efforts. But their isn't any free lunch, so then they have to prove themselves to be worthy of it. It is tougher now then proving before getting reward. Since now they have to compete with the people belong to first category, who have already proven them and habitual of hard work. So there are two main hurdles - 1) Overcoming starting inertia. 2) Extra pressure due to increased expectations (including our own expectations). Sometimes these may lead to extreme depression also which is less likely in first category. But if you can prove now, you would get the feeling of being worthy, get inspiration of nothing is impossible, get high confidence on yourself & positive attitude (which may help overcoming next depression).


So, both ordering are equally fair but very different outcomes. So, its up to us to decide which outcome we want, actually depend on our ability of goal setting.

Real life play

My life here till now, reminded me of the play we used to play in childhood - ghar ghar [:)].


In tat play, we used to make house for our doll, then decorate it. I had smaller version of most of things we use, like small sofa, bed, tv, iron, almirah, refrigerator, all kitchen utensils etc. Then the doll cook food, go to work, shopping etc...


Its a common routine, but sometimes nowadays I feel like I m still playing that game, just the size of things has been changed. I searched an apartment, bought some utilities (like I used to buy toys for my doll's house). I do some experiments in cooking also (like I used to make something from the choclates & cookies in my doll's kitchen). It is fun.


It is like trying to make the apartment home. But a doll's house can never be a home. My home will remain in Indore where my parents are and where I will be back at the end of the play.


But for now I m having fun in the play... and wanna to play it some more time [:)].

Hurting Loved ones

Why it happen tat the people we love most, we hurt them most ? ?


Is it due to converse ? We got hurt most by people, we love, because we don't care abt others. Or we cannot hide our feelings from the people we love. We can share our happiness with anyone, but not our sorrows. We cannot fight or shout at anyone, even if we r angry abt wat they did. So, when we r furious on someone whom we cannot fight, or ourself (most of the time about wat we did), tat anger always vent on our loved ones. It generally happens tat they call us exactly at the same time when we r too angry (I can't figure out how it occur with prob. 1), then we vent all our furocity on them by shouting & fighting with them. They listen us patiently, calm us down. How can they be so cool, or they knew tat we were not actually angry on them ?


Now when we r calm, we realized we had hurt them so finally tat hurt us also. In this new year my next resolution is to try not to hurt them more.

Opportunities

God not always shield us from all sorrows & pains,
But strengthen us to bear it as it comes;
He not always makes our path easy,
But makes us sturdy to to travel any path;
He not always take hardships from us,
But takes fears from our heart;
He not always grant unbroken sunshine,
But teach us to keep our face bright, even in shadow;


I had just finished reading a book. I love reading books because it make me think about myself, mylife, give me new hopes, dreams & enthu.


I always believe God always gives us challenges, to teach us and make us the best. We have to only accept the challenge with courage & try our best to succeed. Then God will make sure tat we will eventually succeed.


If I think of any problem I faced in life, any tough times, I realized tat later on I have learnt alot from all of then. I would not have learn anything if I always got easy life. Every problem gives us opportunity to explore a new solution space, learn something new. He put us in different conditions, where we initially thought we cannot survive, then comes extreme level of depression, but if we won't giveup till end then finally comes success, feeling of accomplishment.


So, in this new year, I will try to take every challenge couragiously and then work hard without giveup for the success.


A happy new year to all of you. May all of you get some really nice challenges & success in the year.