Expectations

Expectation is inversely proportional to happiness. More you expect and more you feel depressed when expectations are not fulfilled.

Life will be much simpler and easier if we stop expecting things from other people.

“Allow the world to live as it choose,
And allow yourself to live as you choose.”
-J. Crossman

Do whatever you like to do for others but should not expect anything in return. Lesser expectations lead to more happiness. But, is it tat easy to not to expect ? ? We start expecting unintentionally.

But still, if I accept truly, I never thought tat seriously about other’s expectations. Then I do not have any right to expect anything from others.

Also unexpected incidents give us more happinessJ. So why to expect ? ?

Thanks

This is the most frequently used word in any conversation. In return of a smallest favor (may not be a favor at all) to a big help, we will get the word thanks.

Today conversation, even between friends becomes too formal. Does in this era only formal and professional relations exist ? ?

Wat does the word represents ? just a formality. If someone helps us, we say thanks and everything ends. Is this single word enough ? You may argue that you wanna to show your gratitude. Then also, do we really need to show our gratitude with words to friends ? ? Do we really need to explicitly slow our feeling with words ? ? Wat message does it give ? tat you have just showed your gratitude but didn't felt any appreciation by heart. So, your friendship is not bound to heart.

Or in this era true friendship rarely exist ? ?

Dowry

Yeah it still exists...


We are in 21st centuary which talks about equality of boys and girls. In this generation girls are leading in every field. But still, women are harassed for dowry. Still we hear cases like abusing, injuring and even bride burning for dowry. There are also cases in which the bride had been harassed physically and mentally to the level that she had to commit suicide. And more shocking news is nowadays it is prevailing more in educated families. Day before today, I have read in a newspaper that a MBBS bride has been burnt for dowry by her mother in law.

Whose mistake is that ? ?
Her husband who supported his mothers view. Her mother in law who actually commited crime. Her parents who married her to that family and forget her. Or herself who doesn't opposed it.

I think it is bride's mistake and only she had to suffer. Why she agreed to marry such a person who was not capable of earning enough or who was soo greedy. First time they asked for any gift showed their basic mentality. Is the marriage that necessary that parents agree to push their daughter to hell.

Even if she didn't realize it before marriage, why didn't she oppose when first time they ask for dowry. Why she want to live with such people who are soo greedy and does not have any values. Basic nature of a person can never be changed. So, why she didn't left that home. Our religion says that we should respect elders but it also say that it is our duty to oppose wrong things. Not opposing a crime is a bigger crime. There are still girls who do not oppose such activities and so such evil yet exists in our society.

If our education system cannot provide enough courage to girls to oppose such activities, wat use it is of ? ?

Be yourself

Most difficult thing is to be yourself,
where everyone is trying to change you.

Feeling guilty

I can tolerate everything but anyone's rude behavior. Wat I think is instead of talking rudely, it's better not to talk. I too try not to talk harshly with anyone. But, sometimes we make mistakes without realizing it. And later (may be too late) when we realize it, we feel guilty.

I too feeling guilty now. I am free nowadays, so remembering some old incidents and suddenly realized I had behaved too rudely sometimes (may be many times) and that may hurt. If I was in their position, I would have hurt badly. I don't know why I did that, may be because I couldn't control my temper. Now, I am feeling too guilty about it. Once my friend even told me about it but still I didn't realized.

But, now I cannot help. I may feel less guilty, if I could say sorry to them. But, it is too late. They may have forgotten the incident and I don't wanna to hurt them again.

Do you think, I do not have enough courage to face them ? ? Believe me, it is more difficult to not to say sorry.

If you are one of them who got hurt and think I have realized, I am really sorry. But, if you think I haven't realized it, plz let me know...

Moments of Life

Wanna to start a new phase of life. Wanna to be myself. For a moment don't wanna to worry about others. Wanna to enjoy the moment to its fullest. Alone in my room, listening some very beautiful songs. Seeing drops of rains falling and enjoying the cool breeze and green leaves from my window. Wanna to write a beautiful poem which capture the moment forever. But I am not a poet [:)].

I realized how much I love myself, how much I enjoy company of myself. It may be situational, sometimes we need family and friends to share our joy, but there are moments we wanna to be alone and enjoy ourself.

Our Ultimate aim

Wat is our ultimate aim ? ?

People say it is name, fame, money, to own a company, do something for nation etc. Is any of these is our ultimate aim ? ? They are just milestones in our journey of life. Wat we actually need is a peaceful life. To be self satisfied with wat we had done. A life with caring family, friends & loved ones. A life which may have some tensions, some sad moments, but in those difficult times, friends shd be there to uplift us, to share our sorrows. We need to have an attitude tat take every difficulty as challenge and have courage to enjoy our efforts in overcoming those difficulties.

And then there are happy moments also, which always overweight those tough times. But the important thing is, in all such moments (happy/sad) our inner self should always be happy, satisfied. So, the ultimate aim is to live each and every moment of life to its fullest.

Is it really tat difficult to achieve this ? ? Is it tat difficult to forget the sad moments and always remember our every happy moments, sharing others happiness, it may include happiness of stranger. If we see a stranger celebrating his/her b'dayor any happiness, wishing him/her does not require much efforts, isn't ? ? We put lot of efforts to get name, fame, money, all other less important things in life. Can't we put small efforts for our ultimate goal. Whenever we c a person, remember his/her gud qualities, wat all he/she has done for u. Can't we give a small smile to him/her for all those things. Can't we just talked to him/her for few minutes. A sweet smile & hello can really do wonders. I remember a incident of my colllege days. I was depressed abt something, walking alone in the corridor. A guy (I know just as college mate) said hello with sweet smile as passed by me. I smiled (tat smile killed my depression). So, these small things when accumulated may change our life drastically.

Only these Small things can give us real feeling of happiness, a happy satisfied inner soul, tat can now climb all the high mountains of difficulties.

Wat more we need ....

Dream World

Dreams are the most beautiful thing on the earth. Then why is it not possible to change our definition of reality ? ? Why not to live in our dream world when bored of real world and back to real world only when bored of dream world ? ?

Think it this way, aren't there times when we get bored of real world, we get bored of monotonous routines, get bored of the people around us. At that moment change our definition of reality and enter our dream world. Do watever we like to do, we are everything there (Day dreaming, dreams controlled by us). Then only when we get bored of the happiness and wanna to have some adventure and struggle, come back to real world. It will be like : "Only when you lost something, you realize its value". Only when we go away from all the tensions and struggles in life, we will realize their value. Then come back to real world enjoy all tensions and struggles.

In conclusion, we will enjoy every moment of life. Isn't it worth trying ? ?