September 28, 2006

Expectations

Expectation is inversely proportional to happiness. More you expect and more you feel depressed when expectations are not fulfilled.
Life will be much simpler and easier if we stop expecting things from other people.
“Allow the world to live as it choose,
And allow yourself to live as you choose.”
-J. Crossman
Do whatever you like to do for others but should not expect anything in return. Lesser expectations lead to more happiness. But, is it tat easy to not to expect ? ? We start expecting unintentionally.
But still, if I accept truly, I never thought tat seriously about other’s expectations. Then I do not have any right to expect anything from others.
Also unexpected incidents give us more happinessJ. So why to expect ? ?
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2 comments:

  1. Meghana KshirsagarDecember 20, 2006 at 1:11 AM

    according to me, the work that we do is like an input into our life, and what we expect as a return for our work is like an output. these are like an action-reaction pair.

    and this mentality of getting a reaction for every action is rooted into our minds. so when you do something for someone, you do expect something in return. the returns in some sense are also an approval, positive affirmation, appreciation of what you've done.

    happiness is a very big factor in the do-and-expect equation, and is inversely proportional to expectation.. but expectations not getting fulfilled is again a probabilistic event ;-) and it feels good to be optimistic about this event, rather than think about it and not expect anything.. so, i think it's very natural and correct to expect.. you may not agree with me though :)

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  2. SapnaDecember 21, 2006 at 6:23 AM

    I think it is ok if there is proper balance between action and reaction. But sometimes even when u do not do anything for the person, but the person was always too nice & helpful to u, u start expecting, due to the favors given by him/her in past. Now u do not have any right to expect in such case ideally. But u started expecting (bigger favors) unintentionally. Why the person is supposed to fulfil ur ever growing expectations ? So, the probability of fulfilling is really less.

    Also, I m not very convinced with action & reaction funda. Everyone has unique nature and different standards for evaluating favors. It may also happen tat u had done something for someone, but for he/she, tat was not a big deal, so acc. to them u shd not expect anything. Or they also had done something fo u, tat u might not consider as favor. So, for action reaction pair u must have common standards for evaluation.

    I completely agree tat it is human nature to expect favors, but I was just wondering, if we can stop expecting, life will be more easier & happier.

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